Changing

Are changes good? Sometimes yes and sometimes no. Just like others life matters, it is very subjective and is highly personal. More often than not people changes over time and even their personality and traits change in stages even if not entirely.

I changed. It is a confession many might not want to own up for some people think that it is some kind of self betrayal to change. For better and for worst. I believe that people grow in time and circumstances. That is because I change in that sort of environment as well.

Sometimes or I would say for a higher level of change, the factor isn’t so much about the time and circumstances that we walk through in our daily life. It is the people around you that have their influence cast unto you. I changed quite drastically I would say due to a certain people in my life.

I’ve always been an opinionated person and I admit I also try to be one by taking a matter to another level of thinking. If there is a job in this world that honours the title ‘Thinker’ (my version) I would certainly love to be the first. Majority of the population says it is not right to change who we are for someone and in influence of someone. I have to disagree on that to a certain extend because it has some logic in itself yet not wholly true. Again the gray area comes in.

I said earlier that I’ve changed for the people around me and I actually like the way things are. There is this person that I highly admire as well as respect in my life and he is the source of my changes. He is of course a very important personnel in my life and have been someone I treasured for the person that he is. In an unofficial manner, his personality and traits which I look up to began sipping in my life and changes takes place in little steps without me knowing. When I realises the obvious, the changes in me are almost fully charged. I began to adopt his personality and I find that to a certain extend, we adopt to each other’s personality. Is this a bad thing? I don’t think so because it is the positive side that we’re moving to.

Apart from the friend I mentioned, my best friends weigh no less in this part of my life. Their personality and traits have slowly make its way into mine and I am happily adopting them. It is really interesting how someone can change another person just by creating a bond and keeping it active.

One might argue that I am talking about changing due to influence and not for someone. I regard that for the fact that a big chunk of this post is about that. However, don’t you think we change prior to influence because we care and want to take our relationship with that person to another level? Little actions like tolerating and accepting is part of changing though it is in the ‘teeny weeny steps’ category. Isn’t that changing for someone?

P/s: I am back in Subang and loving the super fast connection.